I am aware this seems insensitive and politically incorrect.
I’m sure that psychologists and couples counselors such as for instance myself personally are meant to press “communication” because the the answer to a better relationship. AND, I’m right here to share with the truth or at least MY FACT.
While I’ve caused many gay and lesbian people over the past two decades, I’m not sure when this attitude pertains to their commitment characteristics. I’d fancy opinions though.
Back to the assumption: Don’t talk so much!
Lovers submit advising with the proven fact that they want to learn much better communications techniques. While this is frequently real and I also certainly instruct communications techniques, TELECOMMUNICATIONS IS NOT THE ISSUE!
The issue is NOT about communication. The problem is about CONNECTIONS! Or higher correctly, regarding the shortage of connection.
Typically, people hook by talking. By “talking” we most especially suggest talking about her feelings and “processing” all of them.